Manners And Etiquette

(Tea Leaf/66314) So perhaps at 20 years it will appear? lol

Tea Leaf@rss.iscabbs.com — Wed, 27 Jul 2011 04:40:00 -0500

So perhaps at 20 years it will appear? lol

You confirmed what I was already thinking, but as I just read this through this
forum for the first time & the wedding questions, I wanted to ask

(Zelie St Pierre/66313) Speaking as someone who makes and gives afghans as gifts, I woul...

Zelie St Pierre@rss.iscabbs.com — Wed, 27 Jul 2011 04:22:00 -0500

Speaking as someone who makes and gives afghans as gifts, I would probably not
ask about the quilt.  When I plan to make and give someone a baby blanket or
whatever, I don't tell them about it in advance.  However long you think it's
going to take you to make the blanket, it always takes at least twice as long,
and half the time you end up ripping it apart and starting over.  Knowing that
someone is "waiting" on the gift (for me) can really increase the guilt factor
to the point that I don't even feel like working on the damn thing anymore.

Also, if you're one of those super-creative but also scatter-brained people (my
mom is like this), a lot of times you get so excited about a project at the
beginning, but then you lose your enthusiasm or pick up a different project in
the middle of the first one and forget about the first one.

Bottom line, don't ask.  She'll fork it over if and when she gets it done.

(Organic/66312) Funny, i wonder the same thing, for the sam reason! My aunt (so...

Organic@rss.iscabbs.com — Wed, 27 Jul 2011 03:24:00 -0500

Funny, i wonder the same thing, for the sam reason!  My aunt (something of a
part time artist) had told us she was weaving a blanket for our wedding, but ti
was goign to be late, because it was taking longer than she thought.  She was
about halfway done, I think.  Well...that was 10 years ago...  I never had the
heart to ask her about it.  I mean, what's the point?  If she had finished it,
she would have given it to us.  It's awkward, but my hunch is that you just
can't ask.  They can only end up feeling bad about it.

(Tea Leaf/66311) I just thought it was odd that a family member told us she was m...

Tea Leaf@rss.iscabbs.com — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 21:18:00 -0500

I just thought it was odd that a family member told us she was making us a
quilt for our wedding and that she would be done within a year & give it to us.
I've never said anything to her about it, but have always been curious what it
looked like. I was wondering what "good manners" would dictate on my part.

(Mean Mr Mustard/66310) Once a gift is mentioned, I drop it and let the person who menti...

Mean Mr Mustard@rss.iscabbs.com — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 17:15:00 -0500

Once a gift is mentioned, I drop it and let the person who mentioned it follow
through or not.  I find that people say things in the heat of a moment that
they later regret--why hold them to it?

(Tea Leaf/66309) Would you bother asking someone about a gift they promised you w...

Tea Leaf@rss.iscabbs.com — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 16:16:00 -0500

Would you bother asking someone about a gift they promised you when you got
married?

(Karma Police/66308) It'll specify on the invitation if the event is black tie or bla...

Karma Police@rss.iscabbs.com — Mon, 07 Feb 2011 07:18:00 -0600

It'll specify on the invitation if the event is black tie or black tie
optional.  Black tie is usually reserved for very formal weddings that take
place in the evening where the reception is held in a formal ballroom of some
kind.  If the wedding is taking place in the morning or afternoon or there
isn't any indication on the invitation about black tie, then you should wear a
suit and tie.

(Sraosa/66307) Just a suit, unless it's specifically black-tie/formal.

Sraosa@rss.iscabbs.com — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 14:23:00 -0600

Just a suit, unless it's specifically black-tie/formal.

(SledgeHammer/66306) I'm attending a wedding in a few months. I have a tuxedo- a fair...

SledgeHammer@rss.iscabbs.com — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 13:38:00 -0600

I'm attending a wedding in a few months. I have a tuxedo- a fairly nice one-
but am not part of the processional for a change. If attending as a guest, is a
tux acceptable, or just a suit?

(Sraosa/66305) An author using her maiden name is not a pseudonym, no more than...

Sraosa@rss.iscabbs.com — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 11:16:00 -0600

An author using her maiden name is not a pseudonym, no more than a doctor
keeping her maiden name for professional purposes is using a pseudonym.  That
being said, if you're inviting her for professional purposes, use the name she
uses FOR those professional purposes.  Address her using her maiden name.

Now, if you were a friend and sending her an invitation to a dinner party, go
crazy and use her married name, but that's not appropriate for this situation.

((Unknown ISCABBS User)/66304) I'm a member of an organization that wants to invite a professio...

(Unknown ISCABBS User)@rss.iscabbs.com — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 10:56:00 -0600

I'm a member of an organization that wants to invite a professional author to
speak at one of our events.  This author uses her maiden name as a "pseudonym"
on her works, but her married name is different than that professional name.

Which name would we put on the invitation?  The maiden name she uses as a
professional pseudonym, or her actual married name?

(Smoke Eater/66303) November 1999, smartass

Smoke Eater@rss.iscabbs.com — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 02:55:00 -0600

November 1999, smartass

(Knightshade/66302) TECHNICALLY how old the kid is tells us nothing about how recent...

Knightshade@rss.iscabbs.com — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 02:29:00 -0600

TECHNICALLY how old the kid is tells us nothing about how recently the wedding
was of course :P

(Smoke Eater/66301) My oldest nephew from my younger sister is now 8. Thank yous fr...

Smoke Eater@rss.iscabbs.com — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 17:56:00 -0600

My oldest nephew from my younger sister is now 8.  Thank yous from the wedding
still haven't been sent out.  *lol*  guess she didn't like ANY of her gifts.

(Karma Police/66300) Yeah, I'd say if it takes you longer than 3 months after getting...

Karma Police@rss.iscabbs.com — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 07:32:00 -0600

Yeah, I'd say if it takes you longer than 3 months after getting a gift to send
a thank you note, then your guests are going to start to wonder if you actually
got the gift.  Or if you liked it.

(MoonToad/66299) You don't have a year to send out thank yous, you have a year fo...

MoonToad@rss.iscabbs.com — Tue, 30 Nov 2010 10:23:00 -0600

You don't have a year to send out thank yous, you have a year for people to
give you wedding gift.  The thank yous are supposed to go out within three
months of getting your gift, something like that.

(Atheria/66298) I think you actually have a year to send your thank you notes. ...

Atheria@rss.iscabbs.com — Tue, 30 Nov 2010 07:48:00 -0600

I think you actually have a year to send your thank you notes.  I have sent
mine out in batches.  Most of them are done now.  We had our reception in
August.

(Lammam P Yrruf/66297) That said, my wife and I /suck/. We were married June 8th, and ...

Lammam P Yrruf@rss.iscabbs.com — Fri, 17 Sep 2010 20:09:00 -0500

That said, my wife and I /suck/.  We were married June 8th, and sent our thank
yous out as inserts in our Christmas cards that year.

(Lammam P Yrruf/66296) I got you a roaster. I think you can keep it in your pants long...

Lammam P Yrruf@rss.iscabbs.com — Fri, 17 Sep 2010 20:07:00 -0500

I got you a roaster.  I think you can keep it in your pants long enough to
confirm my assumption that this roaster will forever change how you enjoy your
Sunday dinners.

(Karma Police/66295) That's what the honeymoon is for. After the honeymoon, start th...

Karma Police@rss.iscabbs.com — Fri, 17 Sep 2010 11:30:00 -0500

That's what the honeymoon is for.  After the honeymoon, start thanking people.

(Mean Mr Mustard/66294) Absolutely. Two weeks to thirty days is a fine timeframe for th...

Mean Mr Mustard@rss.iscabbs.com — Fri, 17 Sep 2010 05:41:00 -0500

Absolutely.  Two weeks to thirty days is a fine timeframe for thank you notes.

(Starlit Wishes/66293) Persomnally I'd hope a couple of newly weds would be spending th...

Starlit Wishes@rss.iscabbs.com — Thu, 16 Sep 2010 19:57:00 -0500

Persomnally I'd hope a couple of newly weds would be spending their time
enjoying better things than writing me a thank you note a couple of days after
their wedding. :)

(Rick Jenkins/66292) We behaved similarly with our wedding gifts. Wedding was on Satu...

Rick Jenkins@rss.iscabbs.com — Thu, 16 Sep 2010 18:02:00 -0500


We behaved similarly with our wedding gifts. Wedding was on Saturday, got
back from mini-honeymoon on Tuesday, all thank-yous in the mail by Friday. We
got several comments from people afterwards about how quickly they were sent
out.

(Bo Peep/66291) We sent out thank you's the day we received the gift. (for the o...

Bo Peep@rss.iscabbs.com — Thu, 16 Sep 2010 17:17:00 -0500

We sent out thank you's the day we received the gift. (for the ones that were
sent by mail.  The wedding gifts Ty's were sent out on Monday after the
Saturday wedding. (no honeymoon)

Okay, so call me anal.  I kept a spreadsheet of every gift, from whom, when it
was received, when the TY was sent.  If we had to exchange it, etc.  That
helped tremendously.

(Tempestas/66290) LOL AY> I always send thank-you gifts to my Mafia Wars (gawd, wh...

Tempestas@rss.iscabbs.com — Wed, 15 Sep 2010 10:22:00 -0500

LOL AY> I always send thank-you gifts to my Mafia Wars (gawd, who doesn't play
that game)

(Karma Police/66250) Depends on how big the wedding was, but you probably want to get...

Karma Police@rss.iscabbs.com — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 15:59:00 -0500

Depends on how big the wedding was, but you probably want to get the thank you
notes out for those who sent gifts (as opposed to bringing a gift to your
wedding reception) ASAP.  They might start to wonder if you got it or not.  My
best friend didn't thank me for 4 months for the gift I gave her for her
wedding, and I started to worry she didn't get it after about 2 months.

(SIIFG/66244) Not sure if this is the correct place I will also post in photog...

SIIFG@rss.iscabbs.com — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 14:21:00 -0500

Not sure if this is the correct place I will also post in photography.
A very good friend on mine is really starting to get into photography; she
takes some amazing shots and has started to do some weddings and such. She has
also started to watermark ALL of her work when posting on line. She puts the
marks right in the middle of the picture. Its getting to the point where I
don't like looking at her new work because I find the watermark so distracting.
How can I tell her she needs to remove or change the location without sounding
mean.  I love her work I just don't understand the need to watermake
everything.